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Life Connected | Digital Detox Week Two

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Looking back on the first week of the digital detox, it was quite a novelty ~ almost like when you first turn technology off for a holiday.

By the time Friday was here and I was switching the office off for that first weekend, I was beginning to think more deeply about the real life logistics of living without the digital connection and what would come from the adjustment. I was excited for unexpected challenges and to see how I would continue to adjust.

Anyway, this last week has been, let's sayyyy, Dulls Ville.

I was not expecting any sort of illness to creep into my time trying this digital detox, but this week I've been feeling very out of sorts. By last Sunday (my first weekend on this detox) I was wrapped up in my marshmallow bed with a very unfriendly summer flu for company. Boo.

When Monday came and my unwelcome flu-shaped visitor was showing no sign of leaving anytime soon, my patience levels plummeted. I decided not to stress out, just lean into it and try to sleep. In fact, I didn't surface again properly until Thursday.

Those who know me well know I'm not very good at being a patient (sulky) and my usual response would be to stream my favourite movies (vintage Hollywood), get the iPad out and spend time on social media (yay Twitter!) or catching up on some online articles (God, I love you, Google).

It was a whole 5 days of feeling grumpy and very much not in the mood to be disconnected. It was much more tough than I ever thought it would be! I craved funny cat videos!

Armed with only hot Ribena and the books in my house I felt the disconnect greatly.

On Thursday I logged into my email for the first time this week and my lovely friend Astrid had sent over an interesting link to a Huff Post article in response to the Digital Detox concept. It came from the angle of not detoxing at all, but instead choosing how we use social media and picking our platforms accordingly. The author claimed that the technology itself isn't affecting us, but how we choose to use it.
It seems to have worked well for the reporter and I agree that considering the pleasure we get from our social platforms is important. To question why we use them is healthy and can benefit how we use them hugely for both personal and professional reasons.

The article coupled with this week of being forced to stop made me consider how much I rely on being connected that has nothing to do with social media. When feeling unwell, I hop into bed, stream my favourite movies and mooch about online looking through Pinterest for home inspiration, ordering books and generally browsing to keep my mind occupied and pass the time.

I'm keen to see how removing it all (other than for work essentials) and reintroducing it thoughtfully adjusts the way I use the internet. Instead of relying on it for everything, can I use my own resources more thoughtfully first?

I can honestly say I missed the connection this week very much, I felt distanced from my work world and actually felt a little isolated at times. It highlighted how I choose to keep my mind busy and alert, even when I should be giving it a rest. Not just for social media but for having the luxury to learn & find anything, anytime. Even staying up to date with the news. I'm surprised at how much world news I've missed by not being online this week, even if I'm only using it for work purposes.

By the time today (Friday) arrived I was thrilled to be feeling brighter and couldn't wait to get back out into the real world and hit my favourite salon for some much needed pampering ~ but no posting of my usual nailfie to show off this magnificent manicure! It seems I'm still missing social media and my camera.

So in terms of monitoring my wellbeing, creativity, sleep etc. this week, I'm unable to give you anything useful. Sorry!
What I did learn though, was to surrender to what my body needs and I suspect without being forced to rest, this bug could have hung around a lot longer, so for that I'm grateful. But without the usual online distractions, now I'm feeling brighter again, I am desperate to get myself back into the office on Monday.
In fact, I'm loving being in here now to write this. It's my little sanctuary where I spend my days getting inspired, educating myself and Skyping with clients. I love it.

Maybe it's not just the digital connection I've missed,
but this physical corner of my world too.

So unexpectedly, this week was a not only a digital detox, but a life detox too.

I hope you've all had a great week!

Until next Friday,

Victoria x

5 Comments

  1. ⠅⠽⠇⠑ (Kyle) on August 12, 2016 at 7:12 pm

    Awww Vic. Well first off I hope your feeling much better and back up to par by this weekend. I think I can safely say we all know the real “joys” of being with the flu or a cold rather.

    This is a week to let it soak in I guess, past the first weeks excitment. This in some ways will even help you grasps things a bit more I am sure such as enjoying the process of making the morning tea and actually “enjoying” it rather then sipping it down and onward to the days challanges with work. Also maybe a good book is in order. I love to get lost in another world and frankly which one we choose is at our dispoasl.

    Hope your doing well and sending lots of love as always.

    ~Kyle

    • Victoria James on August 12, 2016 at 8:44 pm

      Thank you Kyle! I’m starting to feel much brighter now.
      You’ve inspired me to go and make a lovely pot of tea. You’re always keeping it classy 😉
      I’m so looking forward to getting back to normality next week. Sending love x

      • ⠅⠽⠇⠑ (Kyle) on August 12, 2016 at 9:00 pm

        Awww great!!!! I’m glad. And enjoy the tea , you deserve it. ☕️

  2. Erin Patrick on August 18, 2016 at 3:46 pm

    Victoria, I probably shouldn’t tell you how much we miss you! But we do. I have a question. Is your hubby so very grateful for this detox? Has it affected your time together? I’m ashamed to say, there are times when my husband looks at me and says, “I wish you would put that phone down and look at me.” He would love for me to do a digital detox!
    Missing you!
    ~Erin

    • Victoria James on August 19, 2016 at 3:07 pm

      Hi Erin ~ I miss you too! Although I am really loving this process, it has made me realise just how active my friendships are online.
      I would say our time together has improved since doing this. He is also cutting down on his digital activity, but not to the same extent.
      It has made us conscious of how many times in the past when we’ve been talking, and both of us have been doing something on our phones rather than being present in the moment. I have noticed my mind is much less scattered, and the times when I was jugging work emails on my phone with cooking dinner and talking about our day had meant I’m saying a lot less of ‘can you say that again’ in conversation.
      I am finding when I am giving all these things individual attention, I’m making better decisions as a result of being more present rather than trying to multi task.
      I know that once these 2 months are over, I shall be glad to have a lot of the convenience back that our digital lives bring, but I am certain my self discipline on how much time I’m spending online will be in much better balance too. Do you think you would try switching off for a day or half day?
      I hope you are well and loving your summer! x x

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